Monday, August 10, 2009

You Did It. You Finally Did It.

I met someone.  One of my co-workers has a 10 year old daughter...through IVF.  

I'm a sitcom writer.  It's a job where hundreds of people fight for dozens of jobs.  The hours are  long.  You work weekend.  You don't take time off.  Not a good place for a pregnant woman.

I'm not pregnant.  But I don't want to announce to the writing gods that I am working hard to get pregnant.    So for the past two years I have kept this HUGE part of my life a secret.

It's still a secret except for one person.  That co-worker.  I told her.  She stopped her plans and took me to lunch.  We talked for an hour.  SHE UNDERSTANDS.  

She was my age when she started.  Her first IVF failed, too.  She has been to the mountain top.  

I cannot tell you have life-changing this is.  I have never met one of us.  I've heard their were others.  I've read their blogs.  But there is something about seeing one face to face.  She knows exactly what I'm going through.  She has advice.  She has warnings.  She has comfort.

I am on the Planet of the Fertiles.   I woke up in a world where what is the "norm" is not my norm.   Where I don't belong.  But fortunately I found one more of my species.


  1. That is so fantastic. I think it's the biggest relief to know someone like that in real life. Now, you have someone you can actually talk to, and that is awesome.

  2. That is really awesome. I haven't met anyone IRL yet. It's nice to know there are others out there. :)

  3. Isn't it comforting. I have one friend in real life now, that was just diagnosed and I am helping her as much as I can.

  4. So glad you have that real life person. I have one too and it is wonderful.

  5. DUDE.

    Similarish job situation over here. It's always a relief to know that you're not alone, that someone has been there, done that or going through the same thing you're going through. Making that real life connection just puts it over the top.

    Congrats on your new significant other!

  6. I completely understand. With this new age of Facebook, I am connecting with alot of girls from highschool, which makes me think there was a pool of fertility that I wasnt invited to swim in. My brother and his wife had invitro for their first baby, and the second one was truly a miracle, they used their last egg and it didn't work, but found out 2 months later she was prego, naturally. Keep your chin up. It sucks. I know, we have been dealing with it for 3 years, but at some point it has to get easier right?